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Having Faith When Life Doesn’t Go as Planned

by Nicole Comis | Jan 18, 2026 | Beliefs, Mindset, Personal Growth

Until the last few years, my faith wasn’t something I talked about much, even with my closest friends.

It was deeply personal. Private. Something that developed over time, especially during challenging seasons when I was learning to trust God in ways I hadn’t before.

I was born and raised Catholic, and church was a big part of my life growing up. But as I moved into adulthood, I began to feel less aligned with the church’s views and grew more disconnected from religion itself.

For years, I felt like I was searching for a sense of belonging in my faith. A place where my values felt supported. Where everyone was welcome. Where faith was rooted in love, not fear or judgment.

If you’ve ever felt caught between what you were taught to believe and what your heart knows to be true, you’re not alone.

A Shift That Changed Everything

During my coach training program, my faith unexpectedly began to grow stronger than it ever had before.

Each month, we were encouraged to read books that expanded how we thought about different areas of life. During our spirituality month, one of the books was Conversations with God.

I read it in a day and a half. It addressed so many of the challenges I had struggled with around religion, and I couldn’t put it down.

For the first time, I was introduced to the idea that God isn’t separate from us—He is a part of us.

More than anything, it shifted how I saw my life. I began to understand that life isn’t happening to me, but for me and that every experience holds an opportunity for growth, learning, and expansion.

I realized that when I was trying to force an outcome or control how something unfolded, it meant it wasn’t meant for me.

My mind was blown.

Instead of living my life from a place of fear, I began practicing surrender. Trust. Believing that God was guiding me, even when I couldn’t see the full picture.

Letting Go of Labels

I stopped trying to define my faith with a label.

I no longer felt the need to decide whether I was Catholic, Christian, or anything else. What mattered most was trusting that God was guiding and supporting me, and believing He truly had my back.

That faith became my foundation.

Over time, it continued to deepen. Today, while I connect with Christianity, more than anything, my faith is in God. I trust that I’m supported. I believe that even when things feel uncertain, they are unfolding exactly as they are meant to.

Trust Over Certainty

Today, faith is one of the most important foundations in my life.

Not faith in the sense of rules or fitting into a specific box, but a strong belief that God is guiding me.

Trusting that life is happening for me, even when I can’t see how or why.

That belief has carried me through some of the hardest seasons of my life, especially those times when things didn’t make sense. Moments when I worked hard and still watched things fall apart or unfold in ways I never wanted.

In those moments, my faith isn’t about certainty.

It’s about trust.

Trust that God is working in my favor, even when I don’t understand what’s happening or where it’s leading.

When Faith Was Put to the Test

There’s one season in particular that comes to mind when I think about having faith—not just when life doesn’t go as planned, but when it completely falls apart.

Almost two years ago, my business hit a breaking point.

For different reasons, all of my clients completed their contracts within a short period of time. Some were clients I had worked with for over six years. Suddenly, the business I had spent years building looked very different than it had just a month earlier.

I had only been in Georgia for a few years and didn’t yet have the deep relationships and business connections I had built over nearly three decades in Naperville. I didn’t have the same referral base, support system, or sense of community I was used to leaning on. And being so far away made it harder to maintain those relationships in the same way.

If I’m being honest, that season shook me. I came close to giving up.

And at the same time, I always knew in my heart that this is the work I’m meant to do in the world.

At my weakest point, I believe God showed up for me through my mom.

When I talked about getting a salaried job, she told me I couldn’t give up on my dreams.

That painful season asked me to practice what I believe.

To trust that God was guiding me, even when the plan didn’t make sense to me. To surrender control when every part of me wanted answers.

To believe that what was falling away was creating space for something better.

Looking back now, I can see that season didn’t break me.

It refined me and my business.

Finding Peace in a Noisy World

Another place my faith supports me is how I navigate what’s happening in the world—politically, socially, and globally.

There are so many things I don’t agree with. Things I don’t understand. Things that genuinely hurt my heart.

But I trust that God is working in ways I can’t always see. That there’s a bigger plan unfolding, even when the world feels heavy, divided, or devastating.

My faith doesn’t mean I’m ignoring reality or pretending everything is fine.

It keeps me from living in constant fear or anger. It allows me to stay compassionate without being consumed by it. It helps me move through uncertainty without letting it run my life.

In a world that often feels loud and overwhelming, that faith has been a lifeline for my wellbeing.

It gives me peace.

Living From a Different Mindset

Because of that trust, I live differently now.

That mindset shift has been life-changing.

When things don’t go as planned, I no longer ask, “Why is this happening to me?”

I ask, “What am I meant to learn?”

This is also how I coach my clients—shifting the question from why something is happening to what it might be teaching them.

I trust that God is guiding me where I need to be, even when I don’t understand it yet. And sometimes, when I’m not paying attention, that guidance shows up as a pretty clear kick in the butt.

Listening When Something Is Out of Alignment

Looking back, I believe that’s exactly what happened a couple of years ago with my business. I was trained in the deeper subconscious work, but I hadn’t fully integrated it into my coaching practice because I was worried what people might think.

I wasn’t showing up in my power or aligned with what I know creates real transformation because of fear.

I realized, when I’m not living in alignment with my beliefs or values, something will shift…and it might not be pretty.

Faith as an Anchor

My faith keeps me grounded in the unknown. It helps me stay hopeful when things feel heavy. It allows me to keep moving forward during seasons that could easily make me give up.

There have been challenges, plenty of them. But over the last dozen years, my faith has been my strength.

Even when I can’t see the path clearly, I trust that everything is unfolding for the best.

And if you’re in a season where life feels challenging right now, this is your reminder that trust doesn’t require certainty—it’s rooted in faith.

If this resonated, take a moment to reflect on where you might be holding on too tightly right now, and what it could look like to trust instead.

And as always, if you need support, please reach out. I’m here.

I Thought I Had to Be the Happy One to Be Liked — What That Belief Cost Me

by Nicole Comis | Aug 11, 2025 | Beliefs, Relationships

I Believed Vulnerability Wasn’t Safe—and What Changed Everything

There was a time in my life when I believed vulnerability wasn’t just weakness—it was weakness on steroids.

At a young age, I decided that Happy Nicole was the only version of me that would be liked and accepted.

So I made sure to be bubbly.
Outgoing.
Friendly.
A total social butterfly.

And I thought that’s who I had to be—all the time.

The real parts?
The messy parts?
The times when I was sad or scared?
I hid those parts because I didn’t think anyone wanted to see that version of me.

Here’s the thing: when we carry beliefs like “the real me won’t be liked,” we unconsciously create situations that prove us right.

That’s exactly what happened to me…

About 15 years ago, I was in a really bad place in my life.

On the outside, I was always smiling, but inside, I was barely holding it together.

And one night, out with friends, I over-served myself—something I did often back then.
I ended up outside the bar with a friend and started crying.

Her response?
“I don’t know what to do with this Nicole!”

That moment confirmed my belief:
It’s not safe to show my feelings.
People can’t handle the real me.

And I shut it down.
I shut me down.

I buried my pain.

For years, I hid behind a smile.
I wore the mask of the strong, happy one.
The one who takes care of everyone else.
The one who doesn’t need anyone.

I was the strong one. The one who had it all together.

But the truth is—I was hiding.

No wonder I never truly felt safe in my relationships.
No wonder I felt like a fraud deep down.

Because no one really knew me.
How could they? I didn’t let them.

Beliefs Shape Your Reality

One of the biggest things I’ve learned through coaching and personal development is this:
Our beliefs are powerful.

They shape how we show up—and what we allow ourselves to receive.
They create experiences that prove us right.

“It’s not safe to be vulnerable.”
“The real me won’t be accepted.”

That night outside the bar?
I could’ve been with a different friend.
Someone who would’ve hugged me.
Held space for me.
Told me I wasn’t alone.

But I didn’t attract that—because I didn’t believe it was possible.

That’s how powerful our unconscious beliefs are.

Beliefs Can Be Changed

The good news? We have the power to change our beliefs.
And when we do—that’s when everything changes.

This is the work I do with my clients every day—helping them shift the beliefs running their lives and start showing up as their powerful selves.

Because when you change your limiting beliefs, you change the way you show up.
And when you change the way you show up, your whole life starts to feel different.

Ask yourself this:
What might change if you finally gave yourself permission to be vulnerable and real?

If this resonated with you, it’s time to explore what beliefs are shaping your life.
You don’t have to figure it out alone.

Book a free coaching session and let’s talk about what’s possible when you take the mask off.

The Scarcity Trap: Why You’re Hustling So Hard and Still Feel Like It’s Not Enough

by Nicole Comis | Aug 5, 2025 | Beliefs, Mindset

Scarcity mindset isn’t just about money—it’s the hidden reason behind burnout, overthinking, and never feeling like you can slow down.

I was talking with a client the other day about having a scarcity mindset.
She asked me what it meant—and I felt the best way to describe it was to share a story about my mortgage days.

I was making great money—$200,000 a year—and yet I was still stuck in fear, constantly worried about where my next paycheck would come from.

I worked nights and weekends with a developer and felt guilty taking a day off during the week.

I felt like I had to be attached to my phone and laptop 24/7.
I was terrified that if a client or real estate agent called and I didn’t answer, they’d go somewhere else.
I was constantly on edge, feeling like I was fighting for survival.

On the outside, it probably looked like I was just driven—hustling to grow my business.
But on the inside, I was running on fear.
And eventually, it caught up with me.

That level of stress?
It took a toll.
It led to burnout and, eventually, adrenal fatigue.

The worst part?
I thought that level of stress was just normal.

This fear-based way of living? That’s scarcity mindset.
And most of us don’t even realize we’re living in it.

So, what is scarcity mindset?

Scarcity mindset is the belief that there’s not enough—money, time, energy, opportunities, love, success…
It’s a mindset that focuses on lack and limitation.
And many times, it’s running unconsciously in the background.

When you’re operating from a scarcity mindset, you might feel like:

You have to fight for what you want because there’s not enough to go around
If someone else succeeds, there won’t be enough for you
You can’t slow down or take a break because you might fall behind or miss out
You always need to be doing more to feel safe or secure

It can show up as:

People-pleasing
Answering work calls and texts after hours, on weekends, or even on vacation
Not taking time off—or working during your time off
Checking emails at all hours of the night
Struggling to set (or keep) healthy boundaries

And here’s the kicker…
It usually starts early in life.

We’re taught to compete.
That there’s only one winner.
Only one person can be the best.
If you don’t win, you lose.

We’re taught to hold tight to what we have—because it might be taken away.

So even when life looks good, we can still feel anxious.
Still live in fear.
Still afraid the rug might get pulled out from under us.

So let me ask you this:

Where are you making your decisions from?

Is it from scarcity—that voice that says:

“I have to do this because it’s what people expect.”
“I can’t do what I really want, or I won’t get clients.”
“I need to play it safe, fit in, and follow what other people want.”

Or are your decisions coming from alignment—from your vision and your values?

I’ve been guilty of it, too.
Holding back from doing what I really wanted to do—because deep down, I was afraid.
Afraid of what people would think.
Afraid I wouldn’t be enough.

Even building a business based on what I thought people wanted.

That’s scarcity talking.

I believe the opposite of scarcity… is faith.

Faith that you’re enough.
Faith that you’ll have enough.
Faith that you’re supported.
Faith that what’s meant for you will find its way.

And wow.
That changes everything.

The Power of Beliefs: How Your Thoughts Shape Your Results

by Nicole Comis | Jul 31, 2024 | Beliefs, Mindset

Have you ever noticed how your thoughts shape your reality?

Our brains have their own operating system. And just like a computer, it’s always running in the background.

Let’s break it down:
Our beliefs create our thoughts.
Our thoughts create our feelings.
Our feelings dictate our actions.
Our actions become our results.

Did you know the average person’s thoughts are 70-80% negative?

That’s a lot of negative self-talk!

Imagine what results you’ll get if most of your thoughts are focused on what’s wrong or not good enough. Probably not the kind of results that align with your BIG goals and dreams, right?!?

If you want to change your results, you have to start with your beliefs.

Think of it this way: Your conscious mind is the goal-setter, the part of you that decides what you want. But it’s your unconscious mind that’s the goal-getter, the part that controls your beliefs and thoughts and drives your actions and habits, often without you even realizing it.

Aligning your unconscious beliefs with your conscious goals can create a powerful shift in your life. It’s all about reprogramming your “operating system” to support the life you want to live.

So, if you’re finding yourself stuck or not going after your BIG dreams, take some time to explore your beliefs. They might be the key to unlocking your full potential!